I know all too well when we try to tackle problems on our own, it never works out quite like we had visioned. We can save ourselves so much time, energy, stress, and suffering if we would just include God in our walk - daily. If we know better then shouldn't we do better? Why is that so easy to say and write, but so hard to actually do? We can’t be the women God has called us to be if we continue to be more concerned about fixing other people and their character defects than we are about doing the work in ourselves first.
They say hurting people hurt people. Would you agree? I sure do! When the people we love hurt us, God still says we still need to love them. How would our relationships change if we had the same compassion for others that Jesus did? When we are wronged or hurt, we need to leave the consequences to Him. But let's be honest friends, aren't there times when we think we should be the "one" in control? Are there times when you feel you should be the one to hand out consequence papers?
Sadly, that’s NOT our job. We think because we’re directly involved that we have a right to point out faults, weaknesses and failures. Now I'm not talking about the brother or sister who has "fallen" and we should gently restore them, as in Galatians 6:1 which reads; "Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness." I am referring to the person who you seem to always be critical of, the one whose bad behaviors you always seem to point out. I'm talking about that person. I've learned the importance of knowing what my role is NOT! God's job is to judge, the Holy Spirit's job is to convict and my job.......well, that's simply to LOVE! We need people to see the example of Christ in us even when they have hurt us. Because honestly, demonstrating the LOVE of Christ is BETTER than any consequence, isn't it? Trust me, God will speak to their hearts in a way that only he can, and quite frankly from past experience he does a MUCH better job too! If you're struggling in this area, ask God to give you eyes to see them as He does and watch what happens.
Heads Up: You do not need to attend every argument you are invited to!! DO NOT give others that much control over you. You are responsible for the words that come out of your mouth and for the way you behave. If you show them Christ first and respond in love, it will usually defuse most arguments or misunderstandings. Don’t get me wrong, I know all too well how hard this is and trust me, it’s much easier to write this than it actually is to do it. It all comes down to our pride people! When we demonstrate Christ like behavior we are being obedient. And when we are obedient, well all I can say is just wait for the blessings!
Don't get discouraged, you will not succeed every time. It is impossible for you are only human, but we do have a responsibility to try and keep the peace....to take the high-road so to speak. You know the saying..... Sometimes it's better to be happy instead of right. "Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone." - Romans 12:18.
The morning will surely come and we all know that joy comes in the morning right? Tomorrow is a new day . It's another chance for a "do-over!" If you TRULY want to have Christ-like faith, believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that God can and will answer your prayers. He will surely give you the desires of your heart if it is according to His will. "Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart." - Psalm 37:4. When He makes you a promise, know that you can trust Him. He will never leave you or forsake you. He is the PERFECT restorer. He will restore the things that are broken in you AND in the people you love. You HAVE to keep that faith and hold on to it ever so tightly…..
Wait with expectancy as in Psalm 5:3, "Listen to my voice in the morning, LORD. Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly." If you are going through a season of doubt in your life right now, and you're discouraged that you just can't get it right, KNOW the truth! BELIEVE the truth. Your feelings don't necessarily have to be aligned with the truth. But I can tell you this, the healthier you get those feelings will eventually catch up. Don't EVER doubt the words God has spoken to your heart. Don’t EVER stop trusting God just because other people have.
LISTEN and WAIT with expectancy. When you fall get back up.....brush yourself off......and start again! He loves you too much to keep you where you are.
You CAN do hard things!
Andrea (Andi), is an Author, musician, speaker and Founder of Transcended Ministries. She encourages women to rise above their circumstances and to trust in God's timing. She is involved in Celebrate Recovery and sings on the worship team at her church. Andi believes no hurt is ever wasted and she longs to bring a message of hope and healing as she shares her story of bold faith. Her story includes her struggle with control issues and co-dependency followed by a separation from her husband of twenty-five years. After a year of isolation and being on her own, she watched God bring transformation, healing, and reconciliation.