When I am struggling in a situation or a relationship with others, I call on "My Tribe", my Princess Sisters, my go-to girls to fight alongside me. Please don't get me wrong, my Prayer Warrior Girls mean the world to me, and they are so crucial to have in my life, but I've realized they have become my "go to" girls first and God wants to be the first one I go to.
When I saw this quote this morning (above) on a friends Facebook page (Thanks D.M.), it reminded me that I should go to God and ask him to search my own heart FIRST! I need to ask him, "Is there something I need to change in me?"
So I went before God this morning with these:
1) God, do I need to change the way I am viewing this situation or this person? Please give me wisdom and discernment to see this situation through your eyes. Please help me be patient and wait! (James 1:5 - "If any of you lacks wisdom; let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.")
2) God, do I need to change my behavior and the way I act towards other people? I know others will always be watching to see how I behave, while some will be waiting for me to react out of character to quickly point the finger and cast blame for their behavior. Please help me not react to their negative behavior. Remind me that the truth needs no defense. (Romans 12:19 - Don't take revenge, dear friends. Instead, let God's anger take care of it. After all, Scripture says, "I alone have the right to take revenge. I will pay back, says the Lord.")
3) God, do I need to change my heart and the compassion I have for others? I may not know what others are going through and only you know their true heart Lord. Please give me a heart like yours. ( 1 Peter 3:8 - "Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.")
4) God, help me to change my expectations of the outcome. I get in my head the way I think things should be, the way I think it should all play out. I have the manuscript already written and everybody should play their part, as I see it. Please help me to understand that things happen according to your purpose and your will and not my own. When relationships and situations don't turn out the way I want them to, help me to see the lesson I am supposed to be learning. Give me the hope to believe you have something better for me when things turn out differently than expected. (Isaiah 55:8-9 - "My thoughts are not your thoughts, and my ways are not your ways," declares the Lord. "Just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways; and my thoughts are higher than your thoughts.")
So before we think we need to bring in our prayer warriors, include our friends and tell them all of our problems. Before we rally in the troops and think we need an army circled around us to help us fight the battle.......May we FIRST be reminded to fight alone by looking at ourselves.
QUESTION OF THE DAY: What positive changes can I bring to a current situation or relationship by changing myself first?
If you have a "Tribe of Friends" like I do, you know they will always be there for you.
You can always call for back up later if you need it..........But we must FIRST learn how to "Fight Alone!"
Andrea (Andi), is an Author, musician, speaker and Founder of Transcended Ministries. She encourages women to rise above their circumstances and to trust in God's timing. She is involved in Celebrate Recovery and sings on the worship team at her church. Andi believes no hurt is ever wasted and she longs to bring a message of hope and healing as she shares her story of bold faith. Her story includes her struggle with control issues and co-dependency followed by a separation from her husband of twenty-five years. After a year of isolation and being on her own, she watched God bring transformation, healing, and reconciliation.